>Single and lovin’ it


I’ve left the picture up today because NaNo begins for me this weekend. Of a fashion.

There has been a very strange substance falling, intermittently, from the sky. It’s too thick and random for rain, but too thin for sleet. It’s leaving big splashes that are taking ages to go. It’s very odd and feels quite cold and almost slushy.

Quite a few people have recently been asking how I fit everything in. I usually put it down to being quite anal with my diary, being rigid with time slots and ticks-when-done, and making sure I write down absolutely everything I have to do. But now I’m starting to think it must be because I’m single.

I don’t have to wait for anyone else to come home before starting tea, I can have it whenever I like, if I like, and what I like. The television isn’t switched on automatically whether anyone’s watching it or not so we get distracted by, and engrossed in, whatever’s on. If I want to go “up to my room” and work, I can without appearing rude, OR I can do it exactly where I’m sitting without asking if I can turn the telly off.  I can read or write or knit or sew or do nothing if I want to, when I want to.

Christmas is a LOT cheaper without the usual where-should-we-spend-it dilemma, I can even cancel Christmas if I want to. I don’t have to consider anyone else when planning what to do at the weekends or for holidays (apart from cat sitters or people I’m going to see), and if I want a working holiday I can. Even if I do plan on going somewhere, I can change my mind right up to the very last minute if I want to. I’ve even stopped telling people where I might be in case I don’t make it after all.

Ooh, I could go on and on and on and on …

So now I’ve written all of that out loud, and with conviction, watch Mister Perfect stroll right on in … He’d better be good cos I’m getting used to this independent life.

I’ve not been able to get on with the activity annual because we’ve not received the artwork. The real downside of this is that I have wall-to-wall work in November and was hoping to have the activity annual off my desk by then. It doesn’t look as though that’s going to happen now, although the whole thing is mostly planned with a big long list of activities I’d like to include – just the stories take a while longer. That also means I won’t see the cheque before the end of December. That’s not such a problem as it was last year, though, as I’m now firmly in the habit of not planning or spending anything until it’s in my bank and cleared.

This month I’m particularly proud of my new financial prowess. It’s a 5-weekend month, which means the same monthly wage has had to stretch a week further … but I still have a week’s cash in my purse (wallet), and I still have a further week’s worth in the bank account. This may seem like a pittance to some, but you have to remember that in less than 2 years I’ve gone from running my current (checking) account at minus £2,500 to minus £750 to zero, so the equivalent of a week’s pocket money (shopping and spending money) makes me feel like John D Rockefella. Next step is running at plus a month’s wages …

One of my writing projects is a travel article from my Lake District holiday. I was doing it on spec and had a few markets in mind that accept unsolicited travel features. However, I’ve found a competiton that a shorter version of it may be suitable for, but the deadline’s Sunday. Tomorrow I head to Leeds for the first of 2 NaNo kick-off parties. I’ll also be polishing this travel feature and a couple of other items.

Have a great weekend.

18 thoughts on “>Single and lovin’ it

  1. Devon 22 October 2010 / 10:35 am

    >I, too, love being single. I welcome having good men in my life– but they have to earn me.Congrats on the Lake District article!


  2. Diane 22 October 2010 / 10:42 am

    >Yeah, I miss certain aspects of having a man around – I've had to learn how to rescue giant spiders without having a coronary and I have to clear up dead wildlife (and their remains) that the cats keep leaving, stuff like that. But it's great not having to always consider someone else all the while.Keep everything crossed for the comp – there's a contract at the end of it as part of the prize …


  3. carolwarham 22 October 2010 / 10:51 am

    >You're making me jealous (don't tell hubby).Good luck with NaNo and have a good weekend.


  4. Diane 22 October 2010 / 10:57 am

    >NaNo actually starts a week on Monday, but as we have 2 kick-off parties between then and now it feels as though it's sort of starting tomorrow. I'm looking forward to meeting a few more people.


  5. Ordinary Man 22 October 2010 / 12:15 pm

    >As someone who's soon to be single I have to admit that focusing on the 'I can now do whatever I like, whenever I like' (busy flicking through the BikeTrader as I type) is one of things keeping me sane. The other is finding out that the people I've called friends over the years are prooving to be just that.


  6. Diane 22 October 2010 / 12:37 pm

    >Oh. My. God. You only just got married! I hope you also realised that the ones that have moved 100 miles away are still there too! :o)I'm sorry to see that, obviously. But as it gives me a new buddy too … selfish, that's me. Completely and utterly selfish.Gosh, look at all of those exclamation marks. Can you tell I was a tad surprised?


  7. Diane 22 October 2010 / 2:02 pm

    >Hi Diane, thanks for stopping by – if you want to meet up sometime, i'll show you how to do a crochet blanket. I'm not brill at crochet, but I can rattle a blanket (or 4!) off!! Email me and let me know. xx


  8. Diane 22 October 2010 / 2:13 pm

    >Hey, nice to see you here too. And backatchya. ;o)I can just about manage a single chain. Now, if there were lots of things I could create using just the single chain I'd be fine. My Grandma gave up trying to teach me many, many moons ago. Mind you, she almost gave up trying to teach me to knit too and someone else had to show me how to cast on and off …We seem to visit a lot of the same places, so I'm sure we could pass at one time or another. xx


  9. Teresa Ashby 22 October 2010 / 6:00 pm

    >We had some of that weird rainy type stuff – it seemed too heavy somehow to be ordinary rain.Good luck with NaNo and the competition – and enjoy the party 🙂


  10. Clarissa Draper 22 October 2010 / 6:40 pm

    >I'm jealous. Many times I wish I was single. I know men are good for some things… I just have to figure out what that is. ;)Thank you for your kind words on my blog.CD


  11. Rare Lesser Spotted 22 October 2010 / 10:03 pm

    >Enjoy your life – if he comes along he will… btw, don't rely on a man to rescue giant spiders!X


  12. Lacey Devlin 23 October 2010 / 6:45 am

    >Lots of luck with NaNo! I'm jealous of your parties 🙂


  13. Diane 23 October 2010 / 9:07 am

    >Thanks, Teresa – we have another party next week …


  14. Diane 23 October 2010 / 9:09 am

    >I actually quite like men, Clarissa, and don't mind having to consider others … but it's nice knowing that I don't have to …That was good news for you. :o)


  15. Diane 23 October 2010 / 9:10 am

    >Ha ha ha, Steve, I've started to find that out. There are more wussy men in Yorkshire regarding spiders than there are in Birmingham. Mind you, they're nowhere near as big in Birmingham as they are in Yorkshire …


  16. Diane 23 October 2010 / 9:11 am

    >Don't you have parties and meets and write-ins for your NaNo, Lacey? If there's a forum for your area, perhaps you could suggest one – if you're doing it this year.


  17. Susie 23 October 2010 / 5:42 pm

    >Hi, met you at the meeting today. I agree so much with being single, I have so much more time now (don't always use it constructively) that it would have to be a very special man for me to give up the peaceful and hassle free life I have now. Good luck with nano.


  18. Diane 25 October 2010 / 1:35 pm

    >Hey, Susie, nice to see you here – thanks for taking the time to drop by. And it was good meeting you as well. Good luck to you too for NaNo.


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